Give your families a break—Tips from a Raleigh Wedding Planner

Poppy Belle Design is a Raleigh wedding planner & florist. Feature photo by Krista Joy Photography.

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The cost of a wedding today is no joke. According to The Knot, the average couple last year spent $32,641 on their big day, up from $31,213 in 2014. Cost of Wedding has the Chapel Hill average at between $19,900 and $33,200 and Raleigh’s between $20,000 and $35,000.


And with a whole litany of things to nail down—from food to music to clothes—it’s a natural instinct to seek out ways to cut corners. There are oh so many ways to do that, dozens of things to do on your own, or combine or cut out completely.


But one shortcut you shouldn’t take is the one that puts a burden on your family.

This could take many forms, from set up to craft projects to logistics. It doesn’t really matter what version you’re tempted with—don’t do it!

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I don’t mean not to ask your families to help; they’re a valuable resource and are probably more than willing to lend a hand. The key word here is BURDEN. Remember, while this is your day, it’s still special and important to those closest to you. For people who are really excited for you and proud of you, who really love you, this day means a lot to them.


So while you want to get these people involved—and they want to be involved—it’s important to respect their right to enjoy the wedding and the days leading up to it. You want to wrap up all of your preparations and planning a week or so before the big day; let your parents, siblings, best friends to do that, too!


Want hand-embroidered napkins for all 350 guests? Fantastic—don’t ask your mom to do that all by herself one month before the day you do. Have a florist with three drop-off times at different locations and a host of needs at each place, requiring someone on your end to coordinate? Manageable—but don’t assign that to your maid of honor. Instead, talk with your mom about the napkins at the beginning of your engagement so she has a few months to plan and get things done. Hire a wedding coordinator to help with the florist so your best friend can chill with you, the girls and a tray of mimosas.

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On the day of the wedding, don’t expect your parents, close family and intimate friends to do a ton of work. Allow them to just kind of sit back and enjoy the fact that their son, daughter, brother, sister or BFF is making one of the biggest decisions of his or her life. Trust me, they will be so much happier for it—as will you to have them by your side.

There are many, many ways to make this possible. One of those is a wedding planner—and enter us! Give us a call at Knots ‘N Such to help with your wedding coordination, taking the pressure off those that matter on the big day. We want you and yours to enjoy this event you’ve spent so much time and money to make possible!

To Transport or Not to Transport? — Tips from a Raleigh Wedding Planner

Poppy Belle Design is a Raleigh wedding planner & florist. Feature photo by Erica Serrano Photography.

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So you’ve spent countless hours, thousands of phone calls and what feels like endless renditions of Excel spreadsheets planning a gorgeous and elaborate—or not—wedding. You’ve got food (yay, your guests will eat!) and tables and chairs, of course (also important for the eating). You’ve picked out your gown (since naked wedding was taken off the table early on) and your fiancé has … something in his closet as well, hopefully. The music is lined up, flowers arranged, centerpieces made, and everyone has at least been told (probably one to half a dozen times) where they’re supposed to be and when.

Every tiny detail about the event you’ve thought over and talked over to satisfaction. You know how things will go on the day.

But how will people get there?

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I’m sure you’ve thought of how you and the wedding party will arrive (Did you see the above? You’re detail-oriented—or have a planner who is), but what about everyone else?

Something of a trend nowadays is providing transportation for your guests, be it in the form of a trolley or shuttle bus or something else entirely that runs from the hotels to ceremony and reception.

I’ve seen it a few different ways. Some couples set up specific times and have the vehicle make loops between points A and B, giving guests some flexibility both at the beginning and end of the event. Others (usually smaller wedding parties) have a take it or leave it one-time deal.

Whether this is right for you and yours is completely up to you, but (since spreadsheets are your thing) here’s a pros and cons list to help navigate the decision.

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Pros to guest transportation


  1. Prevents drunk driving

If you’re providing alcohol at your wedding, setting up transportation for your guests will keep anyone who has one drink too many off the roads. This in turn could allow some people to party a little harder (if you’re into that sort of thing) than they might have otherwise knowing they have a free and safe way home.


  1. Helps with parking

If this is an issue at your venue—which it can definitely be in big cities or some more historic venues—eliminating a majority of the car traffic can make a huge difference and can eliminate some stress for your guests. Even in cities where parking might be plentiful but a tad costly, sending a shuttle might make things easier.


  1. Eliminates GPS error

If you chose a hard-to-find venue for your ceremony and reception, taking navigation out of the equation might just make the difference between one of your guests arriving on time or not. Not to mention if the ceremony and reception are at different locations, a shuttle to and from—or at least between—them eases that transition and can help ensure things move along in a timely manner, i.e. people don’t linger too long after the ceremony and delay the start of dinner!

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  1. Ensures the timeline

Having a scheduled shuttle would definitely make sure that everyone—or at least a majority of guests—arrive at the ceremony on time (or all equally late if the shuttle runs into traffic). A scheduled evening ride might also cut down on the number of people who linger afterwards and delay your departure and retreat to the honeymoon suite—and sleep!


  1. Brings people together

Piling dozens of guests onto a charter bus certainly creates a community feel—and a youthful one!


  1. Decreases the burden on guests

The bottom line is providing transportation makes things a lot easier for people attending your wedding. It cuts out logistics, decreases costs and eliminates the need for out-of-town guests to rent a car. If you’re looking to have a seamless, carefree event for people, guest transportation is the way to go!

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Cons to guest transportation


  1. Cost

This is the biggest deterrent for most couples. Hiring a bus or a limo or what have you to shuttle guests back and forth can get quite pricey, and the bigger the wedding, the bigger the bill.


  1. Lost of flexibility

Having set times for people to leave the wedding can make it difficult to adjust the event timeline if things get pushed behind.


  1. Logistic difficulties

If you have rooms reserved at more than one hotel, mapping out a route that doesn’t leave too early or arrive too late can be challenging. Not to mention if you want a sendoff, you’ll have to decide if you want it before the first shuttle leaves so all guests can participate or when the last one takes off—when you’re actually leaving.

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  1. Excess alcohol

Having an out to driving might encourage guests to drink more than they would otherwise, which, if you’re not really into the party scene, might not be the vibe you want.


  1. Early birds

Some guests might leave earlier than they otherwise would have because their desired departure time falls between the two scheduled pick-ups.


Whichever way you fall, this can be a tricky road to navigate! Give us a call at Knots ‘N Such for some guidance or full-on planning. We’d be happy to help you out!